With a new flip of the calendar year tends to come a new flurry of excitedly engaged couples that we have the pleasure of working with! It’s such an exciting time – fresh off of a magical holiday season, sharing your sparkler and engagement story with family and friends, and wondering…where in the world do we begin? Friends and family will immediately want to know all of the details: where you’ll tie the knot, what the date is, what your colors are, etc., etc.
While it’s so much fun to share your joy with everyone, we know how quickly the excitement can turn to an overwhelming and uneasy feeling of we don’t know! We have one sage piece of advice we’ve been telling our couples since 2003 that we wanted to share:
Take a deep breath. Enjoy. And have a serious talk about what’s most important to you both for your wedding and the planning process itself.
After all, your engagement is a journey and one of your first adventures you’re embarking on before you meld your lives together. We encourage you to assess the key details before you settle on a date, tell the world they’re invited, and dive into a budget.
What’s most important to you both can mean a number of things, but consider:
–Location – are you both from elsewhere but live in a city together? Will you bring friends and family to that location and have a fun destination wedding for them and share your new digs? Will you travel and plan from afar to tie the knot in your hometown?
–Ambiance – what do you envision for the ceremony? Something traditional in a church or on a rooftop? An intimate cocktail party where a wedding happened of a beautiful reception party for 400? Do you want guests to come from the weekend and stay together at a resort or on an island?
–Figure out who loves what (or if you both enjoy everything!). We often find that our couples have different interests so one may enjoy planning the look and feeling of the wedding like flowers, the linen choices, lighting, and the visuals. The counterpart may really enjoy great food and cocktails and want to head that up or absolutely love music and want to create a festive vibe through sound and the menu.
So please, close your eyes together. Breathe. And envision walking through your wedding day. What do guests see when they arrive? What are they greeted with or where are they? What are you wearing? And picture what you want the ceremony and reception to feel like. This little exercise can do wonders in helping you both really create priorities and help to kick off the planning process with a great understanding!
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Congratulations and enjoy the process!